(This video is recorded from a Facebook LIVE session)

Low self-confidence isn’t a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered—just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better.
— Barrie Davenport


Across the board you ask anyone what is the sexiest thing a person, and it’s confidence.


Confidence to me though is believing that no matter what flaws you have you are still worthy of love, and you walk with the knowledge that you are loveable.

Confidence is birthed out of your soul and not your ego.

It’s says, “no matter what happens, I am loved.”

Confidence is knowing that our loveability and our worthiness is not dependant on what anyone thinks of us.

It’s not open to negotiation.

Confidence is feeling the certainty that we are unconditionally loved. There is nothing we can do to lose it, and nothing we can do to earn it.

And when we operate from that place - WOAH! Watch out world. Everything opens up.

But how do we get that?


THE BIG SECRET TO BEING MORE CONFIDENT IS…. you can learn it! It’s not something that you are born with or not born with. It’s a skill set we can develop. And I’ll teach you my process.


5 Steps Process to Feeling Confident

  1. Define Confidence  - what does that actually mean to you… what does it look like.. What does it feel like...feeling smart, sexy, competent.

  2. Find role model - find an image of what it would look like. This helps to create this visual for yourself. 

  3. Roll Back - remember a time when you did feel confident. There is a recipe. What does it feel like.

  4. Act as if. Acting creates Confidence. Confident people walk a certain way, talk a certain way… honestly in this case it’s faking it until you make it. You have to try it before it feels natural. There comes a point, where you just have to do it. Tell my shorts story… We have to do it scared.

  5. Celebrate!



Mary Hyatt