S2: EP8 - HOW TO MAKE ADULT FRIENDSHIPS: AN INTERVIEW WITH LISA WHELCHEL

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SHOW NOTES

Is it just me or does making friends as an adult seem complicated?!

When we’re younger it seems we have more opportunities to meet people or more time to connect and hang with our girlfriends…

But then life happens… we marry, have kids, build our careers… who has time to make or invest in friendships?!

And yet, we’re wired for community! So then why does it seem so complicated to make new friends as an adult?

How do you make healthy adult friendships?!

Well, you’re about to find out!

On today’s podcast episode, Lindsley Brooks and I have a VERY special guest for you, Lisa Whelchel.

You may know her as Blair from the long running television comedy called, The Facts of Life but what you may not know is she’s a life coach and wrote a book on friendships for grownups!

Listen in on her story and discover what she’s learned along the way about making healthy adult friendships.

In todays episode we explore…

  • How our own inner childhood wounding can keep us from creating intimate friendships.

  • Tips for finding your tribe when you feel like you don’t fit in.

  • The belief that “its really hard to make friends”.

  • Practical ways and tips for making healthy friendships and building community.

  • What a “healthy” friend or a “safe person” looks like!

  • How to go deeper in a friendship when you’re afraid of looking “needy”.

  • So much more!!

Show links

More about Lisa Whelchel

Lisa’s Book: Friendship For Grown-Ups

Lisa’s Show: Collector’s Call


DIY “CONNECTED” BLEND

RECIPE FROM “I AM FABULOUS” BY DESIREE MANGANDOG

Place drops in a 5ml roller bottle. Fill the rest with fractionated coconut oil. Apply to inside of wrists creases, back of neck and over heart area. *Avoid direct sunlight for 12-24 hours after applying as some of these oils are photosensitive.
Combine: 8 drops cedarwood, 5 cassia, 5 wild orange, 3 grapefruit, 3 marjoram, and 2 ylang ylang.

“Connected blend reminds you that you are not alone. Everyone is part of a greater human community, and also a part of smaller communities. You may benefit from this blend if you were hurt in the past, and then decided to create a wall and not let anyone get close to your heart. It's a defense mechanism. Connected will help you begin letting others deeply in.” - Desiree Mangandog

Essential oils are a powerful tool to help you connect with your emotions and your body. And this blend will help break down your walls to that you can open up to the support a community has to offer.

BLEND BREAKDOWN (TAKEN FROM THE BOOK: I AM FABULOUS)

8 Drops Bergamot: "Oil of Community" Helps you recognize that many people love and support you.

5 Drops Cassia: "Oil of Self Assurance” Provides self confidence and helps you see your true beauty. Great for those who are shy and timid.

5 Drops Wild Orange: "Oil of Abundance" Allows you to feel the warmth and love in. your heart. from all the people contented to you.

3 Drops Grapefruit: "Oil of Honoring the Body" Gives you discernment on who to let in and who to keep out of your space.

3 Drops Marjoram: "Oil of Connection" Breaks down the walls that block the heart from opening and restores trust in humanity. Creates trust and openness. so that. a true bond can be formed in friendships.

2 Drops Ylang Ylang: "Oil of Inner Child" Heals the heart from past pain and heartache. Encourages play and restores a childlike nature and innocence. There are many kind, loving people in the world. Ylang Ylang will create the desire to deeply connect with those exceptional people we meet daily.

FOR MORE INFORMATION ON ESSENTIAL OILS, CHECK OUT WHAT I HAVE TO SAY ABOUT THEM HERE.


SEASON 2: COMMUNITY

Each month will be a deep dive into a topic that supports you on your journey to living more fully alive. August’s topic will be on COMMUNITY. Make sure to check out all the episodes from this month’s topic.


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