Everyday people are having conversations around money… how to get it, how to earn it, how to spend it, if they have enough of it.. Etc… and yet it’s still a TABOO topic right up there with sex and politics. It is just paper and yet we have so many psychological issues tied to it.
As children all of us create a special lens of experiencing feelings and emotions-weather that’s negative or positive. Growing up in the south, emotions weren’t something I really understood or valued. I didn’t know how to feel them or express them in a healthy way. For some reason I adopted this thought that emotions weren’t a good thing.
On Facebook you occasionally get notifications for your “memories”. Photos or posts will pop up from 1 year ago, 2 years ago, etc. A couple weeks ago, I had a “memory” pop up from something I posted 5 years ago that hit me like a ton of bricks. 5 years ago I was running a Farmer’s Market in Nashville. On a beautiful Fall day I took a photo with my assistant Carissa
Last week I got to spend some beautiful time at the beach with my family. Now, I don’t know about you, but I always feel a little bit of dread when I’m going on a beach vacation. Thankfully, I was with my lovely family but I was still dealing with that dread of having to wear a bathing suit.
The deepest fear that we all have is that we are not loveable, and most of us will do ANYTHING to feel loveable. This is because we don’t realize all the love we need is within us. We change, we adapt, we play small, we attract, we seduce all in attempt to have someone else PROVE to us that we are loveable. We don’t believe that we are. So, we become codependent, doing anything for our “loveable” fix.
Y’all, you will probably hear me repeat this phrase over and over again if you hang with me enough. I’m constantly asked to explain to people how to live a life without attachment and begin to approach everything in life with a “this or something better” attitude.
One of my favorite ladies, Danielle Laporte, describes joy as the fiber of your soul. And I love hearing those words because it reminds me that joy is our natural state. It’s both accessible anytime and unconditional. It is not dependent on anything or anyone. It is the true, authentic delight that you can experience at anytime despite what is happening out there in the world.